Guide to Making New Year’s Resolutions


2015 is beckoning, and as much as I love Christmas with its celebratory sparkle, my soul longs for the crisp clean beginning of a new year. As the last pine needle is deceptively swept away (we all know we’ll still be finding them in July), the dust is wiped from the forgotten festive mantle and the jingle bells are a distant echo; we nervously jump out of Christmas firmly attached to our parachute and we hear the call. To be resolute.

As you’re clearing away the left-overs and the piles of tiny shiny ‘Celebrations’ wrappers in the corner of the room from where you were sat late last night scribbling out your ‘change me’ wish list for January (at the top of that of course is ‘stop.eating.chocolate’) you’re already predicting how long into the new year this personal motion will sink deep into that deep ocean of another year…failed.

I think in terms of the day’s resolutions, not the years. Henry Moore

I’ve won some and I’ve lost some. I’ve succeeded and I’ve failed; but in every far reached, wholehearted, ‘still glad I’ve started’ attempt to ‘do better’ I’m still me.

I believe when God intricately, perfectly and peacefully knitted me together in my mothers womb He designed a unique and unknown pattern; He knew His turning chain as he formed my brain, He played His slip stitch ace as He sculpted my face. He made no mistake with His crochet. And He knew how much I’d weigh.

There is no one like me. There is no one like you.

You see when we so desperately want to better ourselves, we have to ask, is that what we’re really doing? Fully forming who God made us to be or trying to better that other image of that other person we’d rather be?

Let’s not do that – let’s not tell God He didn’t do a good enough job. Let’s give the Master Creator the glory He’s due for His finest work. You.

I’ll let you into a secret. 2015 is a big year for me; in August I’ll be turning 40. I’m an absolute goal setting, list making, must have a celebratory cake baking kind of gal for most ‘normal’ days, and this is BIG.

So I made a list: ’40 things before I’m 40′

The pressure of this list occasionally trickles on me like a desperate attempt at a morning shower in a ‘youth hostel’ in a remote African village. I count the months left on my fingers (eightish…)and then check the list again; phew – some are done:

Quit sugar

Set up a business from home

Wear lipstick more


Yet so many left, and with 8 months to go.

We so constantly put ridiculous pressure on ourselves don’t we? I remember earlier this year mentioning to my life coaching/goal setting extraordinaire type friend (I have a few…maybe I attract them ha!) that I’d made a list of 40 things…they commented that even they didn’t think they could come up with a list that long. At that point I started to wonder if I’d pushed the realms of ‘objectifying’ by defying time and space and reality. I mean really – 40?

So here’s my resolution solution which must be worked out with heartfelt execution: take 4 things, already authentically part of me and well planted but water them and grow them 10 times bigger. 40, right?

So here are 4 things I do everyday to varying degrees; here are 4 things I’m passionate about and that make me me; here are 4 things that I want to put 10 times more effort, time and wholeheart into, here are my 4 things:

  • Be caught by His heart and respond to His pursuit of my heart – daily commit to going deeper in my devotion to Father God

  • Cultivate relationships. Be intentionally ‘present’ in my marriage, family and friendships

  • Care about myself. Consistently commit to self-care; physical, emotional and spiritual

  • Create. Pursue creativity; write something, draw something, take a picture or just sing…but do it everyday!

So rather than adding the new why don’t you add to the already incredible, spectacular and wonderfully made you? Take one seed of ‘real’ from within you; something you think about all the time, something you wish you had time for and in 2015 water it…

Be your beautiful authentic self in this new coming year, dare to break the mould of failing attempts of perfection and performance and continue to write your story; yes it’s a raw and messy and unpredictable and sometimes late and a ‘not quite thin enough’ life – but it’s real. It’s you.

“Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” Brene Brown

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