3 Things I’m (still) Learning About Raising Children!

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“Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.”
― Benjamin Franklin

In just a few weeks time my eldest child will turn 13 – as much as that is a big deal for her, it’s also a monument in this journey for me! And I’m not sat here thinking ‘where did the time go’, I know where it went because I lived every moment of it; I’ve sown and prayed and fed and nurtured and cried over and prayed again every day of these passing 13 years. I thank God for His grace and I thank God for the enormous privilege of raising these children for His glory.

So as I’m almost a ‘teen Mum’, I’m reflecting on some of the immovables in my journey; here are three that have stood out to me recently:

1.  Get your Word from God!

Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly. Matt 11: 28 – 30 (MSG)

There are so many inspiring people, books and blogs in this global community we live in today and I hear you, some of them have saved my sanity, and here am I sharing my two penneth worth on the blogosphere too (!) but we’ll never fully be able to walk out a conviction or revelation going on someone else’s journey, story and most of all children! There are markers and pillars in God’s Word that reveal His father’s heart – that’s what I’m looking for! So next time you feel inspired by someone else’s convictions or journey, go to God, process it with your spouse and don’t try to make all the changes the next day!

Stay close to God, listen to His heart for your family, for your lives and be free, be secure and be YOU!

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There are markers and pillars in God’s Word that reveal His Father’s heart – that’s what I’m looking for!

2. Saying sorry is really powerful!

Wow have I learnt this! Our children need to understand our frailties and our utter dependence upon God; this doesn’t produce insecurity or fear, this produces freedom! I remind my children frequently that the Gospel is for ALL; I am aware of the Holy nature of God, the sinful nature of my heart and thus my need of a saviour. When I mess up, let them down, get angry, am hypocritical (you know the list…) I say sorry and ask for their forgiveness. By doing this we’re not only humbling ourselves before God and those we love, we’re setting an example and teaching them that this is how we live.

Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self. 1 Cor 13 (MSG)

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3. Keep check on the condition of your soul!

Agh this is really hard, and I say it a lot to myself and others around me, but we can’t get away from it friends – our children ultimately learn from us. We are their example, their pattern, their markers in the road and their place of safe growth. This doesn’t mean we have to be perfect (phew), it mean we have to be submitted to God; the closer we walk to Jesus the more we’ll look like Him.

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Yes our children belong to God and we trust Him for their lives but He has placed them into our hands for such a time as this. He has gifted us with these precious lives and I for one desire to live a life worthy of this incredible calling of motherhood.

The mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom. Henry Ward Beecher

I am responsible for the condition of my soul; no one else can cultivate a devotional life, daily fan into flame the gift that God has put within me or throw me at His feet everyday – that’s my job.

And out of this cultivated heart and this peaceful spirit I mother my children.

I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Phil 4:8 (MSG)

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